The defining choice of who you really are will come at different stages in your life. There is no perfect age or time to identify the when it happens. All you know is you declare your individuality and know your boundaries. This is a giant milestone.
Reinventing the Self
This is a process that will go on until you find out what makes you worthwhile. At the turning point of facing life or death, you have to choose one or the other. I have come to the conclusion it is a choice, and we know when it is our time to depart from this life experience. I have pondered on this question many times as I have interacted with the place one goes to after this life experience. The afterlife isn’t heaven, neither is it hell, it is the conscious state of mind that exists after the transition of the physical form. Many feel it’s a waste of time to contemplate these things and you need to live your life in the here and now. This is true and correct, you should live in the now. When you are faced with a dis-ease that could result in your death, you begin to ponder it loud and clear inside your head.